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maybe I should get married first

maybe I should get married first

Tue, 05/19/2009 - 00:02 by Aido in response to palpable discomfort

My mom is the youngest of all her siblings, and I think I'm the last of my cousins on her side who has procreated.

And then we visited relatives this weekend with my aunts.

And then everyone was talking about grandkids.

And then came the accusatory eyes.

 

I'm going to have to convince my brother to get a girlfriend and have kids or something.

Comments

WELL THIS IS AWKWARD 

Comment by Ananth Tue, 05/19/2009 - 00:20

WELL THIS IS AWKWARD 

Well, if you're not up to

Comment by GauntletWizard (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 01:43

Well, if you're not up to the challenge...
:)

NOW it's awkward. XD

Comment by conrad Tue, 05/19/2009 - 08:14

NOW it's awkward. XD

You know, guys....

Comment by Sockpuppett (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 09:10

It's things like this that make the world wonder about your ambiguous relationship.

Is it ambiguous?! We've been

Comment by Ananth Tue, 05/19/2009 - 09:13

Is it ambiguous?! We've been dating for 2+ years now ... mystery solved! 

d'oh

Comment by sockpuppett (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 09:18

:P Well I don't normally pry! You're like ... very far away, and very not-people-I-know. And stuff...

(and I've suspected but never thought it was any of my business either way) At least now I get why it was quite so awkward!!!

 Haha, sorry, I didn't mean

Comment by Ananth Tue, 05/19/2009 - 11:23

 Haha, sorry, I didn't mean to come off as snippy! I was surprised, but then I went back through the archive and noticed that we steer well clear of our personal relationship. Now I get where the ambiguity was coming from! 

I didn't even know...

Comment by Howdacow (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 21:15

Yeah, I never knew that you guys were dating from the comic. Like you said, you stay way clear of the lovey dovey stuff. (Thank God)

Which is specifically why it

Comment by Tobias (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 10:29

Which is specifically why it seems like something is going on.

It was something that got carried over from Applegeeks, for me...believe it or not.

Yeah, from the comic, I

Comment by Ron (not verified) Sun, 05/24/2009 - 23:58

Yeah, from the comic, I always sort of got the impression that Yuko and John were possibly dating, and she and Ananth were more like best friends, which is cool. I mean, having people think your significant other is your best friend is a good thing, right?

Aaaaaaand, 2 years later,

Comment by Anonymous (not verified) Sun, 12/11/2011 - 11:56

Aaaaaaand, 2 years later, this particularly dumb reader just realized that Ananth and Yuko were dating after re-reading the archives and reading the comments for this strip.

Though, he had his suspicions.

Oh, It Gets Even Better

Comment by McClaud (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 11:45

If they get married, and they have kids, I guarantee mom will start pestering about how they are raising kids. "I bet it's all Ananth's fault they act like little heathens," or, "Why didn't you enroll them in that special expensive school so they'll get ahead in life?"

It never, EVER ends.

To be fair, "I bet it's

Comment by Ananth Wed, 05/20/2009 - 12:47

To be fair, "I bet it's Ananth's fault they act like little heathens" will probably be pretty accurate, and it will probably come from my own mother. 

LOL

Comment by McClaud (not verified) Thu, 05/21/2009 - 11:17

So far, it hasn't been my fault, but I know her mom is just waiting for me to slip.

Hehe wow

Comment by Joe (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 00:25

It's like that when I go and visit my relatives... Doesn't help that out of the six cousins I have five of them have kids and they all have 2 or more... yeah I know how this feels XP

Huh

Comment by Nick (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 00:25

There may in fact come a time where a mother gets so desperate for grand children, they may start sending sex care packages.

Although, as far as I know its a fairy tale...but in this great world of ours...I really wouldn't put it past someone. o_o

Yeah...

Comment by Bubbles (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 00:30

Right after I got married, we went on a big family vacation. My mother in law ushered everyone out of my husband's and my hotel room one night saying, "Okay, everyone let's leave them alone. I want some grandchildren!" *shudder*
And it didn't get any better after having a kid. She's only a year old and they've actually been pushing for the next grandkid for about 6 months now. There is no appeasing the grandparents!

You're not alone, some

Comment by Emily (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 07:02

You're not alone, some friends of mine have a similar mother. She bought them a giant, four poster bed because she knew that her daughter had a fantasy about being tied up to it. Also she keeps sending them on vacations so they'll get it on. EEEEEEEWWWWWW.

And now for further horror, YUKO YOU KNOW WHO I'M TALKING ABOUT.

Thats just bloody scary. I

Comment by Nick (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 20:09

Thats just bloody scary.

I am now fearful of what my own mother will do. I've had the speech before about grandkids. o_o

(I wonder if I should thank the gods that I'm single)

Welcome to ...

Comment by Robert (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 00:27

Welcome to ... post-graduation ... 20-something ... pre-career ... child-parent interactions. My mother basically told me: "You're 24 now. By the time your dad was that age, he already had you. Well, what've you got to show me?"

I called her bluff and said, "I CAN DO IT NOW! LET'S DO IT NOW! I DON'T NEED TO FINISH GRAD SCHOOL!" and grabbed the nearest person.

Awesome

Comment by Nate (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 12:52

Totally badass retort dude.

"maybe I should get married first"

Comment by Shawn Handyside (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 00:42

Pfft... marriage. Cool people date for 10 years and then accidentally have a baby.

...right? -_________-;

 A-am I allowed to laugh?! 

Comment by Ananth Tue, 05/19/2009 - 09:17

 A-am I allowed to laugh?! 

I've got nothing but love

Comment by conrad Tue, 05/19/2009 - 11:17

I've got nothing but love for Shawn, but I've been laughing about this since I got up this morning.

The EYES

Comment by Softspoken (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 00:48

Has your Mom been playing Harvest Moon? That might explain why she thinks grand-babies are standard accessories with anyone after a certain point in time.

Two Beds?

Comment by Charlie. (not verified) Sat, 05/23/2009 - 02:04

Of course, in Harvest Moon, there is also a bed for each spouse. So...that puts the sex care packages and four poster beds out.

They will just have to rely on the stork!

Wow I am in the exact same

Comment by Zaph (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 01:18

Wow I am in the exact same boat as you, Aido XD except instead of being the last one on my mom's side, it's my dad's.

babiesbabiesbabiesbabiesbabies

First by Coincidence

Comment by A.L. (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 01:18

I'm 22 and probably won't even plan on having any kids for another 7 years.My twin brother on the other hand has already successfully procreated and has a girl on the way,so I don't have to worry about my mom hounding me about grandchildren any time soon.Can't say she's pleased about being a grandmother so soon though.

Also lol @ last comment.

heh yeah, same here

Comment by Eddie (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 01:27

Perhaps the mayority of your readership its in the 20s?

im about to graduate, 26, and my mom is tired of me just having girlfriends, she wants a daughter in law and she wants kids...FAST... i havent had a significant relationship in this semester (its the last, and i dont have the time :S) and she has already tried to set me up with 2 girls... both pretty and nice ppl, but i just cant handle the hassle of a relationship right now, i want to graduate, work and enjoy the money while being single for a while...

and yes, those eyes... man...

well

Comment by Mentaluproar (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 19:14

You see, that is too practical. It's much better to marry someone you will hate in 10 years so that your parents will have something to play with and give back to you when they get bored with it.

I suggest getting them a puppy. -_-

already did, its a mix

Comment by Eddie (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 02:20

already did, its a mix between a fox and a welsh corgi xD

...

Comment by Cowdog (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 01:37

Next time this happens, counter with funny pictures of lolcats!

From a youngster who does want to pump out some grandchildren

Comment by Koiyuki (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 01:42

I think a lot of it's linked to extending the legacy of the person and watching their family grow more and more and more before their time comes. It's natural human behavior for a person who wish for their bloodline to extend and leave behind a lineage, but for me it's only best when the child can be raised in a loving, supportive home. That way the child has something positive to look to as they grow and something positive to sustain them at home.

Take your time. One fine day

Comment by RazedToast (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 02:48

Take your time. One fine day you will wake up with that "Hey I think want kids too" and then you will know you're ready.

Meantime you could convince your mum rushing you wont help cos if she wants one badly you can always order one tonight and have it delivered in about 9 months or so.

Entire team is...

Comment by Yuyuke (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 03:18

This might ruin the sting of the comic but, for some reason, I can only hear all of them shouting "BABIES!" in the voice of Team Fortress 2's Heavy Weapons Guy.

And then my head takes it a step too far and pictures Heavy Weapons Yuko's Mom. I need more sleep...

Thank you, now i'm laughing

Comment by Busard (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 06:51

Thank you, now i'm laughing like an idiot at work

I'm in my mid-twenties, but

Comment by Angela (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 03:24

I'm in my mid-twenties, but the look my mom gives me says, "NO babies!" XD

"Oh what, mom? You don't want any little me's running around?"
"Not for a long time, sweetie... I'm just not ready."

Use the sustainability argument

Comment by Naktarr (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 05:58

Not that my parents harrass me about having kids, they had me at 36 and 42 but if ANYONE tries the line at me I firstly get seriously pissed, and secondly go into a great longwinded discussion about how the human race has overpopulated the world and I'm doing my bit to reduce our consumption of the worlds resources, unlike *those* people over there pushing out children like the've never heard of contraception.
*erhem* That is laying it on pretty hard, I don't actually have such a rude opinion, but its always nice to horrify someone into silence when they have insulted your life plans. (get it, ;)) Sorry if you're offended, my actual view is that people shouldn't go around having double digit numbers of children, thats rather alarming for sustainable little me.

Hmm...

Comment by John Kelly (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 10:16

My parents had me in their mid-30's, and my take on it all is that people should have kids so long as they can reasonably support and love them. I agree though, having a "litter" is gross, and those people have no business getting fertility treatments when certain loving people who cannot conceive on their own aren't even allowed to adopt in the US.

I use this argument, except

Comment by Dainty (not verified) Mon, 06/28/2010 - 07:53

I use this argument, except I mean it :D I will definitely look into adoption before ever considering creating a whole new kid.

If it helps to reduce cat population, it should work on human population too.

Ah! Babies...the Ultimate STD...

Comment by Virtual Bob (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 06:34

Every mom since time began has pressured their daughters (and sons) to start (re)producing the goods. They just want grandkids because:
a) They can dote over them, play with them, feed them candy and give them a drumset and a puppy, then send them home with you.
This leads to...
b) Parental REVENGE (also known as the Mother Curse: "Someday you'll have kids of your own and they'll be JUST LIKE YOU!"

"just like

Comment by Eddie (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 02:23

"just like you"............"just like you"............"just like you" **echo fades in the distance*** ........."ou"

thats how it sounded to me when you reminded what my folks used to say to me lol

"I hope you have kids just like you!"

Comment by Another Bob (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 12:55

My response to that eventually became:

"That's cool, but I'll skip the traumatized part."

Of course they only want to

Comment by Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 07/23/2009 - 08:40

Of course they only want to deal with them when they are awake/(not crying at three in the morning demanding some form of attention)
they have u back but with more sleep :)

This too shall pass...

Comment by Lynn K. Fletcher (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 06:50

I got married at 22. I'm 27 now. The first few months after I got married everyone was eyeing me up and down. I'd say I have a headache and my mother was getting a pregnancy test. One time I started a sentence with, "I think I'm..." and my mother dropped a glass in the sink and broke it. The end of the sentence was "psychic." She wasn't happy with that.

Then my husband and I moved to Japan for two years. When we came back, no one asked for babies anymore. I think they've resigned themselves to wait for my younger sister to start a family.

Which is why I say, this too shall pass. If you're really not going to have kids (or if you just want to have them on your own terms) give your parents a few letdowns and then ignore them for two years. They'll be so grateful to see you in the flesh again that they won't even ask for grandchildren.

At least that worked for me.

~Lynn

do you by any chance play

Comment by Eddie (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 02:25

do you by any chance play guitar?

RE:Babies

Comment by Ben (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 07:10

Welcome to my world, everytime "that" subject comes up me and sis head 4 the hills.

eh...

Comment by Twitch (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 07:17

It's like my folks. I'm the oldest of the middle kids and somehow my folks are expecting me to be the first one to get married and have kids so on...
The actual oldest sibling is in South Korea teaching english, the one just above me is in the navy and I suspect he has a fear of women or something, which leaves me at 22 and still in school.

so yea the relatives stare at me a lot.

Kid Humor

Comment by Robert V Aldrich (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 07:25

At a recent family gathering, I noticed that all my siblings and cousins who have kids ceased to have any awareness of anything outside their kids. The only jokes they laughed at were jokes involving Sponge Bob or Playhouse Disney, and the only time they really got involved in conversations were when it concerned or was related to their children.

Fake Grandchildren

Comment by Kittykins (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 07:38

Hehe, my mom's the same way, it's so bad that if I go shopping with her and she sees baby clothes or worse, shoes she gets those sad puppy dog eyes. The conversation usually goes with me saying "I kinda need a man first" and her going psh over the "details"...

So last December I got her some fake grandchildren :) my brother and I now how two little kittens for her to spoil and it seems to have her appeased for now. :p