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maybe I should get married first

maybe I should get married first

Tue, 05/19/2009 - 00:02 by Aido in response to palpable discomfort

My mom is the youngest of all her siblings, and I think I'm the last of my cousins on her side who has procreated.

And then we visited relatives this weekend with my aunts.

And then everyone was talking about grandkids.

And then came the accusatory eyes.


I'm going to have to convince my brother to get a girlfriend and have kids or something.


Similar to moments I had

Comment by Viga (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 08:09

Similar to moments I had with some MARRIAGE tossed in.

It can get worse

Comment by Katherine (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 08:24

Its just your cousins having kids now. I'm 23 and the youngest of all my cousins. My eldest cousin is in his 50s. I have cousins with grandkids and cousins whose children are older than me. Just enjoy your family.

I'm just gonna throw this

Comment by Michael M. (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 09:20

I'm just gonna throw this out there and if you're not feelin' it, feel free to throw it right back.

Dress Conrad up as a baby.

I ... uh ...

Comment by conrad Tue, 05/19/2009 - 11:19

I ... uh ... I'd normally counter with a weird incriminating picture of me ... but fortunately no such thing exists.


The day's not over.

Comment by Michael M. (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 15:01

The day's not over.

This needs to happen...

Comment by Nate (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 12:56

and there needs to be a comic about it.

What in the world is wrong

Comment by ThunderGodNick (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 20:13

What in the world is wrong with you people. That would be the LAST thing I need to see before I leave for work in the morning. o_o


Comment by Joe (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 13:33

I smell some xbox avatar vandalism in the near future.

i approve of this suggestion

Comment by Eddie (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 02:29

i approve of this suggestion :D

You think youngest is bad...

Comment by Nuri (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 09:23

Try being the oldest. Of six. I guess I'm safe for now because I still have younger siblings in grade school, but everyone is like, "OMG, if you go to law school for 3 years you won't be able to have kids until you're almost THIRTY!!!"

Apparently being the oldest, you are expected to settle down and get a family first. All the grownups in my family seem to have 3 or more kids. I'm kinda hoping that the other cousins (and maybe my brothers) will start procreating and take the pressure off me.

LOL; ;A; Luckily for me, I'm

Comment by Anonymous (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 09:26

LOL; ;A;

Luckily for me, I'm only 16 at the moment, and all of my siblings are younger than me... : D
I'm not sure if it's /because/ I have so many siblings, but my mom forbids me from having children until I'm 30+

Your mom's accusing eyes <3 D:

I get the same look from my

Comment by Enzel (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 09:32

I get the same look from my mom and I'm turning 20 next month. :|

Well, I think it's more that she wishes she had babies to fuss over in general rather than she specifically wants grandchildren from me. Just need to wait for my siblings to take the pressure off... XD

I feel your pain

Comment by Drezz (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 09:32

My wife and I have been 'trying' for over a year, and sadly its not going well. All of my wife's friends are getting pregnant and they could care less if they have kids or not - meanwhile my wife is freaking because she wants kids so bad and its not happening.

Until you're actually in the midst of planning to have kids, you don't realize how much marketing there is towards babies, new parents etc.

Its everywhere - and it increases the pressure exponentially.

Haha, thankfully my mom

Comment by cacodaemonia (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 09:41

Haha, thankfully my mom doesn't care if we have kids, though she does send me lingerie sometimes. XD;

I have three generations of

Comment by cheri (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 09:54

I have three generations of women who are badgering me.
Which is weird because I'm the youngest of all the kids...I just happen to be the only one in a stable relationship.

"I want grandkids!"
"I want great grandkids!"
"I want great-great grandkids....BEFORE I DIE."*

*Wha-what are you supposed to say to that? D=

Have you tried

Comment by Nate (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 12:57

"So stop eating so much salt!"
alternatively: "Then work out more!"

... They're

Comment by Cheri (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 15:15

They're old.


I'm not telling a 92 year old woman to work out more!

While I made the salt comment jokingly,

Comment by Nate (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 20:11

I'm serious about the working out suggestion. Lack of physical activity amongst the elderly leads to much faster morbidity, to put it nicely. Working out an exercise plan with her doctor is, in all seriousness, her best option if she wants to live to enjoy some time with yet another generation. If she hit 92, she can probably go longer.

Don't you mean...

Comment by VeroJade (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 23:17

Don't you mean mortality?

No...I think morbidity is

Comment by Anonymous (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 00:56

No...I think morbidity is right. Mortality deals with death, morbidity deals with wellness. The idea is that older people exercising more increases their wellness, so that they spend fewer of their final years bed-ridden.

"Working out" and "physical

Comment by Cheri (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 12:09

"Working out" and "physical activity" are two different things, I think.
She is pretty active and considerably healthy for a 92 (93 in June) diabetic amputee.
She is on a exercise plan already, but I wouldn't call it "working out."
More like sitting in a chair, rhythmically raising and lowering appendages.

I gotta admit

Comment by Nate (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 17:03

That does sound like the limit of her reasonable ability right there.

Not really babies but...

Comment by Kirimon (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 10:02

My boyfriend's mother always teases him about us getting married. (We've been together almost two years and have been friends for four years.) The other day I was borrowing some of her clothes because I didn't have any proper work clothes and she said, "You know, when you guys get married I can't be loaning you a wedding dress." I almost bursted out laughing in front of her and Anthony looked mortified. xD

Same boat

Comment by Azeral (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 10:37

Hahaha I"m in the same boat! My mom is doing the same to me! I really don't wanna have a "parasite" growing in me and then depending on me for 18 yrs! O_O

I need to get my sisters procreating!!

Ah the joy of having

Comment by conrad Tue, 05/19/2009 - 11:20

Ah the joy of having "late-blooming" parents. I've got another 6-7 years before they start bothering me. :) 

Get that and I not getting any younger and neither are you.

Comment by ScifiterX (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 11:24

It my case Mom wants grandsons. Likely do so in a not to distant future but I'm still trying to get my life ready.


Comment by June (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 11:35

ahhh, well...let me put it this mom spoke soooooo much about getting married and what mr.perfect SHOULD be...and how to find mr.perfect...every single day...and making a headache out of it...that i just simply...made up my mind... "im not getting married or having kids". saves alot of poo. sorry ma..still love you anyway... XD

My Wife and I Are Having a Baby

Comment by McClaud (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 11:53

Doesnt' matter what you do, moms always change the rules of the game.

Now my mother's on the "YOU BEST RAISE HIM RIGHT" kick and gives me dirty looks when she sees other kids misbehaving. LIKE IT'S ALL MY FAULT.

Oh boy (and/or girl)

Comment by Razor (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 12:50

My fiance and I are getting married in 4 months and we're already bracing for the "So when are you having kids?" question that will probably start at our wedding reception. X_X WHEN WE'RE DARN GOOD AND READY OKTHXBYE


Comment by Lissa (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 13:03

My Mom was 28, almost 29 when she had me, but Dad had just turned 24 earlier that month. I just have a brother that is 18 months younger... earlier this year, he got married. He and his girl have had 3 abortions in the past 5 years.

The pressure is definitely on me... especially now that I have my degree, what am I waiting for?! Heh... how about getting myself financially stable, finding the suitable mate (or deciding for sure about Mr. Current-BF), getting married, adjusting to marriage, THEN babies... Of course, Mr. Current-BF is 5 years older (24 & 29), so he's pushing for kids, too.........

Ah. the joys of being the eldest

Comment by Sidka (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 13:14

I'm in a similar predicament. My dad just wants me to marry (because in his mind, it is the only thing that will prove I'm not a lesbian. Nothing against it, I'm just not.). This is usually countered by my reminding him that I live in Las Vegas, and that if I wanted to, I could go and marry that afternoon, then start a divorce that evening.

My mom on the other hand wants the grandchildren, and she admits that it's so she can spoil them and send them right back to me. I'm pretty sure my younger sister by a year and my brother who's still in middle school will be married and have kids before I do.

Why are you so distraught

Comment by Jonathan (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 13:35

Why are you so distraught over this? All mothers want grandchildren. They'll get them eventually. Until then, entertain yourself by playing on your mother's expectations. And how wonderfully you fall short with them. Her disappointment is priceless. You can turn her glare into despaaair! =D

"I don't want children now" = "I hate you" I honestly believe she hears that.

It's so bad that my sister was crying for nieces and nephews the other day. I'm the eldest of four children. She has PCOS and my other brother is mildly autistic. All hopes lie on my youngest brother. He's only six. There's hope that he'll knock someone up by accident. So it all works out.

Also, I love how you draw the children so they look mindless, lol.

The Horror!

Comment by sugarapplesweet (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 13:36

Well, I'm just lucky that both of my parents don't even like the thought of me getting married one day, let alone having kids.

However, a friend of mine recently moved in with her boyfriend, and when she went home to visit her folks, they'd filled their entire garage with baby stuff like cribs, changing tables, clothes, diapers, etc.

They told her they figured she was only moving in with him because she was pregnant and didn't want to tell them. O_o

That is why I'm glad my

Comment by Rabid-Turtle (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 17:37

That is why I'm glad my brother knocked up his wife! Now I no longer get the "you better have demon spawn glare"

Not _all_ bad....

Comment by ElofTurtle (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 18:06

I have a PLAN. At least where I live you can get enough student loans to survive, so:

A "normal" life span would be education (25yrs), career (30-35yrs), OMG biological watch!!!! (30-40yrs), BABIES, babies move out (55-60yrs), imminent death (65+).

The Plan:
education + babies + near starvation (25yrs), some kind of career (grad school?), no more kids (40-45yrs), a life, imminent death (65+).

Since the angels/demons are getting older along with my diploma thesis they have had a _lot_ of time with at least one parent the first four years before kindergarden (or whatever they are called). And if my marriage is still intact in one years time it will survive anything.

The Plan may, of course, feel vey much like a very bad idea during execution, so a 5-10 year plan is a recommended add-on :)

Haha, yeeeah I've been

Comment by Taryn (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 19:06

Haha, yeeeah I've been getting the "I want grandbabies" eyes for the last 3-4 years. As the oldest apparently that's my job, or something.

The worst though was my sister telling me it's my fault she's not an aunt. :P


Comment by Suki (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 19:15

Don't remind me. As the oldest of the bunch I'm suppose to do everything first...but I have a long time for that ;D I'll take ur brother :D

hahaha, my brother is doing

Comment by Jamie (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 19:17

hahaha, my brother is doing all of that for meeee! i dont have to stress about babies or getting married for a while. he's already married and planning to have kids in the near future!

*getting off scott free*

Tell them you're gay

Comment by Mentaluproar (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 19:40

Tell them you're gay. It worked for me for a while. It still does for my father. My mother on other hand got used to the idea, and then popped this lovely question one day:

"Do you think you'll ever marry or adopt?" -_-

Let's see...single, no career, single, living in a conservative state, not interested in raising crotchfruit, single, etc etc...

Not really thinking about it, I just told her no and that my straight siblings will eventually take care of that. I didn't realize why she kept bringing up the grandchild issue until today. Sorry mom!

It seems the desire for grandkids is not exclusively a lineage issue. I think she just wants kids to dote over since my sister already moved out and my kid brother, the youngest of us, is heading to college next year. Poor mom will be lonely. :(


Comment by Hilary (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 21:38

Ahh, the joys of being a teenager. My parents are still afraid of the prospect of babies... I'll enjoy it while I can.

Oh god, that's my mother.

Comment by Lyndz (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 22:09

Oh god, that's my mother. Toss in the rest of my family wondering when I'll ever 'settle down' and get married and it's like a million laser eyes of judgment and terror. D: Just the past week alone they were advocating I buy a house 'to have for yourself'.

I am terrified over the prospect of telling them I am adopting a cat over the worry they will assume I am destined for a life of spinsterhood and will die alone in a house with 97 cats.

That sucks

Comment by alexds1 (not verified) Tue, 05/19/2009 - 22:15

Parents can be scary about that kind of thin. Don't feel pressured to have yourself baby! Remember, there are many laying around free for the taking.

This is what I keep saying! 

Comment by Ananth Tue, 05/19/2009 - 23:33

This is what I keep saying! 

Yeah, but you can only steal

Comment by Anonymous (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 01:21

Yeah, but you can only steal so many children before people start to ask questions...

Could Be Worse

Comment by TemplarKnight (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 00:17

My mother once chastised my sister when she was thinking of not having children. My mother exclaimed "You're denying me Grandchildren"

Apparently my mother has no faith in my ability to procreate.

actually, my mom's totally

Comment by chelsea (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 01:42

actually, my mom's totally the opposite. she's been telling me i can't have kids for another ten years..since i was twelve. i'm nineteen now, and she still tells me to wait another ten years. :P


Comment by Louis (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 03:03

Wow, my parents are the complete opposite. I've never gotten the have-babies-now stare. I suppose because my dad had my brother at 20 yrs/me at 22 years old. He knows what it's like to stay home every weekend, keep the same job for eight years because you just can't risk a week of unemployment, and eat beans, soup or sausages most nights. He keeps telling me and telling me and telling me to wait until I'm at least 25. There'll still be plenty of nice boys around, you'll have a job and a proper place to live, you won't feel pressured, etc etc. The worst of it is "if you get a boyfriend, don't be shy about asking me to buy condoms for you". Shudder shudder.

My mom, on the other hand, had me at 36 years old. She tells me about how my body has all the time in the world to pump some out. "The ovum aren't going anywhere, they don't have flagellum" so I should get comfortable first. The worst of this side of the parentals is that she was on the pill when she had me. I hope I haven't inherited super hormonal reproductive powers.

Thank goodness

Comment by erime (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 06:35

Our siblings provided grandchildren for mom and mom in law. Thankfully they realize some people don't want kids, and some people can't have kids. Of course, J and I have been together so long (15 years, since I was 21) and my health is so wonky everyone is aware we likely won't have children.

I get tired of the *belly pat* "So, when are you due" and "Are you ever going to have a baby" questions. Yes, I have a pudgy belly, but come on, it looks nothing like a baby bump. It's always older busybodies who do it to me, and it's every couple of months. It's aggravating as heck, though I do love to deflate them with *Sniffle* "I just can't seem to get pregnant, I've tried. It upsets me so much every time people ask me about it..."

Forgot to add

Comment by erime (not verified) Wed, 05/20/2009 - 06:46

We also got a grand baby substitute:
A bouncing baby cat! Actually a 25 pound cat. Tyler T Catt has become the adoring focus of the mothers and my sisters kid adores his cat cousin.

Wowww, 15 years!

Comment by Ananth Wed, 05/20/2009 - 09:46

Wowww, 15 years! Congratulations!